How long is the two-minute exchange?

Time is a basic in life and dictates much of what we do!   “They say” that time goes by quickly when you are having fun …... perhaps, meeting with your co-parent for the exchange does not fall into that category.  If so, perhaps you can use these creative calculations to  help put the time you spend with your co-parent for the exchange in perspective.

An efficient exchange can take place in 2 minutes!  In real time, the exchange utilizes 0.0004% of your time per year!   If you view the 2-minute exchange as the longest 2 minutes of your life- keep in mind this is for your child!          

Let us look at the big picture!  What does a quick calculation in minutes reveal?   A breakdown of the number of minutes per year (60 minutes per hour x 24 hours = 1440 minutes per day =1440 minutes/day x 365 days) is equal to:

524,160 minutes of time per year


A quick calculation on the exchange time based on a 2-minute exchange

(2-minute exchange x two times per week =4 minutes/week.     4 minutes/week x 52 weeks is equal to:

 208 minutes of your time per year


What do these calculations mean?  In the big picture, the 2-minute exchange works out to:

.0004% of  your time per year!
 

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See how the 2- minute exchange compares to activities you already perform (and perhaps endure) on a daily basis.  In the scheme of things, the 2-minute exchange is nominal.  And, when considering how your child benefits-the 2-minutes is priceless!

5 common events chosen are:

1.  The offensive person at weekly office meetings

2.  A challenging co-worker

3.  The difficult relative at holidays

4.  A rude parent at school committees

5.  An out-of-control parent at a sport activity

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1.  The offensive person at weekly office meetings
Based on 1 hour per week for 50 weeks per year= 50 hours of accepting and overlooking this person.
50 hours x 60 minutes=3000 minutes per year.  3000 minutes with co-worker in meetings minus 208 minutes for annual exchange= 2792 minutes

Which means you are spending:
2792  MORE  minutes per year with the offensive person in weekly office meetings than with your co-parent!
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2.  A challenging co-worker
At work 40/week for 50 weeks=2000 hours per year  of working with this challenging person
2000 hour per year= 120,000 minutes.  Take 120,000 minutes with the challenging co-worker minus 208 minutes for annual exchange time =119,792

Which means you are spending
119,792  MORE minutes per year with the challenging co-worker than with your co-parent! 
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3.  The difficult relatives at the holidays
Holiday hours estimated at 35 hours per year of spending time with this difficult relative
35 hours per year = 2100 minutes.  Take 2100 minutes with difficult relative minus 208 minutes for annual exchange time=1892 minutes

Which means you are spending:
1892  MORE minutes per year with the difficult relative at the holidays then with your co-parent at the exchanges!
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4.  A rude parent at school committees
4 committee meetings estimated at 3 hours each= 12 hours with this rude parent
12 hours per year=720 minutes.  Take 720 minutes with this rude parent MINUS 208 minutes for annual exchange time=512 minutes

Which means you are spending:
512  MORE minutes per year with the rude parent at meetings than with your co-parent at the exchanges!
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 5.  An out-of-control parent at sporting activity
2.5 hours/game for 12 week season=30 hrs/yr of being in the presence of this out-of-control parent
30 hours per year= 1800 minutes/year. Take 1800 minutes with this difficult parent minus 208 minutes for annual exchange=1592 minutes

Which means you are spending:
1592  MORE minutes per year with the out of control parent than with your co-parent at the exchanges!
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In essence, each day we complete tasks and communicate with people that we might not talk to, if given a choice. However, we talk with these people at work, we problem solve at meetings, we make small talk at family gatherings and put up with difficult parents at sports events.  

Why?  Because we have to!  Because communicating well is part of being an adult.  Communicating with your co-parent is a MUST for your family (and sanity) and,  communicating well is a basic  NEED of your  child!!  

Offer your child the comfort and security to see their parents communicate with kindness and consideration.  In the scheme of things, this annual amount of .0004% of your time is minuscule when compared to the benefit to you and your co-parents child. 

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Children seeing their parents communicate well is PRICELESS!! 

 

Suggestions to streamline the exchange process:

▪   say all good-byes and I love yours in the car before arriving at destination

▪   for young ones fly your little superman or butterfly into the welcoming arms of your co-parent

▪   pass bags, school projects and extras

▪   leave the scene feeling proud that the exchange process was uneventful